Monday, May 4, 2009

Barry and the Mother's Day Blues

Mother's Day (another Hallmark holiday) is coming up. For those of us whose mothers are no longer alive, this holiday can be hard. The emptiness that never goes away by the void that is left can at times be overwhelming. And Mother's Day just serves to big it to the surface. Unless you've lost your mother, you can't really know how it feels. Especially if she was a big part of your life.

Barry knows how it feels. And every time he sings "You're There" or "I Am Your Child" you can hear it in his voice. I've also wondered if when he sings "Somewhere Down the Road" he isn't thinking about her as well. It's that longing-that absolute feeling of loss. It's a feeling that creeps up when things happen in your life that you would want to call your mother and share with her. Or that feeling of being alone that you feel when you would just like your mother to hold you and tell you it's going to be ok.

I guess that's one thing Barry and I have in common. We know what it's like to lose our mothers and to have to go on because "she would have wanted it that way."

Having the Mother's Day blues,
Texas Fan


Anonymous said...

I can understand how this feels as well. It is very hard to get through, but, she will always be in his heart...

Rozanne said...

I too, can relate with Mother's day and the loss of my beloved mother in 1998. I can also relate with Barry in the fact that both our moms lost their battle with a smoking related disease.
My Mom was diagnosed with lung cancer in July '97, it had spread to her brain by August and she was gone by Jan. '98. She was all of 62yrs young. She was buried on what would have been her 63rd birthday. One of my nephews was born on her birthday, so there's a silver lining there. Barry's mom died a few years before mine.

It was especially hard for me this year because the way the days aligned, they are the same dates/days as they were in 98 when my mom passed. But she was able to see me have my first child. In fact, she had 3 grandchildren in 1996. My daughter was born in may, then she had a grand daughter 2 months and a grandson 4 months after my daughter was born!! LUCKY number 3!!!

So I understand his and anyone else's pain when Mother's Day comes along. My prayers are with Barry and all of those who share in this rememberance. Thank you for allowing me to vent.

texas_fan said...

My mom died at 52. She too had cancer,but it was breast cancer. Too young and too suddenly. I hate to say it but I've always hated Mother's Day since she's the one holiday that seems the hardest for me.
My sympathy and prayers are with you as well.

MaryBarryCrueltyFree! said...

Suzanne - I can relate to Mother's Day and not having my mother around to celebrate it with. My beloved mother passed away in 2000 at the young age of 69. She was my best friend. I talk to her when I can and write to her in my journal about the things I am doing, any problems, foibles, asking her for advice, suggestions, etc on how to navigate life. I know she's listening. I miss you mom! I also can indentify what Barry's going through also as he lost his beloved mom . I always encourage others to love thier parents and cherish them. They are your best friends. Goddess bless you mom and Edna. :-)

Bonnie said...

I know the feeling too. I lost my Mom the year after Barry lost his, also to lung cancer. Not a day goes by that I don't think of and miss both my parents, but I think it is especially hard when you lose your mother. She was not only my Mom but my best friend as well.

texas_fan said...

Bonnie and Mary,
I know how you feel. My mom was my best friend too. And that makes it even more difficult. But I'm sure you have some great memories, as do I. And those memories keep me going when I miss her.
Thanks for the comments, guys!

Survivor said...

I know from the UK Mothers Day has been and gone but I am with all of you on this one. I lost my Mum 11 years ago to a smoking related condition. Still sometimes wish she was here just to be able to pick up the phone and talk to her. She would definitely understand my Barry Manilow obsession, she loved him too!

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